I saw it --
I am not blind: The hair peeking under the arm, and a little bit of it below.
Bent hips, beautiful legs and foam loot will make Uber
Curve Beyonce double shot.
It\'s hard for me to miss these changes;
After all, I still supervise my 8-year-
Old night Super bathroom--
She was happy to share those with her sister, a bunch of baby dolls and a bunch of rubber fish.
Still, we were all stunned when the pediatrician told me and my husband that it was time to talk to Mari about puberty.
After all, how do you tell a child who still worships SpongeBob, hub ba Bubba bubble gum and two bathtubs about the chest, bra, menstruation, cramps, acne and PMS? We. Were. Not. Ready.
But it is clear that we need to be prepared as our little girl\'s body begins a long and slow journey towards becoming a young woman, despite our collective abnormal behavior --
It is no longer an option to quit and insist on information. Ivor Horn, M. D.
One in Washington, D. C. C.
Pediatricians who provide adolescent counseling to patient parents acknowledge that parents are uncomfortable with such conversations because too many of us have memories of our experiences with parents who are too embarrassed or unwilling
But, according to Horne, we have to tell our children about the changes that have taken place in their bodies ---
Before they get the crazy \"fact\" version from their pre-adolescent playmates on campus.
\"The signs of puberty are a teachable moment,\" adds Horn, a mother of two, seven and nine years old herself.
\"The important thing is to let the children know that they are in good condition. you love them so much. their physical changes are normal. they can come to you if they have any questions.
\"It\'s comforting if you and your child are staring at puberty,-
Like Nick, Mary and I. -
You\'re not alone with a bunch of underwear.
Fortunately, we are not the first to let our children experience this change, and we are sure that the shooting will not be the last.
So to help us get through this, I asked some helpful advice to adolescent moms.
What do you expect when you have a girl\'s chest bra: between the ages of 9 and 13 (
There are all kinds of normal phenomena here! )
What to expect: estrogen injected into your middle body from the ovary can cause breast germination-
Small lump behind the nipple
In the end, nipples and buds become larger, darker, sometimes even sharper, and more rounded and Fuller over time.
Her chest will feel a little tender and one breast may be bigger than the other.
Let her know that this is perfectly normal and will not last forever.
If she is in particular pain, it is OK to give her a breath.
Sherrie Strong said that at this stage you may want to buy her a bra that doesn\'t wear a coat or sport to help her support, protect her soft breast tissue from the owner of a lingerie store in snerville, Georgia that might stimulate her.
How to deal with it: it will be difficult to adapt to your daughter\'s new body, especially if she fills in quickly and looks more like a woman than a little girl.
Try not to be a big deal about it. -
She might be herself.
Sober enough. Tori (
Not her real name)
FRISCO, Texas, mother of four, simply put her daughter Gabi (
Not her real name)
And then 12, in a T-
Help her understand why she needs a shirt for a bra. Ally (
Not her real name)
A New York City mom gave her daughter Carmen
Not her real name)
Now 12 years old, a bra head
About two years ago.
\"I just thought of it as broccoli,\" Ally said . \".
\"When we go to Target, I say, \'Hey, pick some bras that you like and throw them in the basket.
Now that she loves them very much, she sleeps on them. \" Parenting.
Com: How to make your child open up to you, Tori is having a hard time finding a bra that fits Gabi.
In the end, a friend who worked at Victoria Secret offered to measure her daughter so they could know what size to buy.
Installation is a wise move;
\"Some girls seem to go to sleep and wake up the next day with a C cup,\" said Strong.
She added: \"Wearing a fitted bra will help protect her from back pain, uncomfortable straps and stretch marks, which will appear when the tissue in the breast is not supported
When should menstruation be: Between 10 and 15 years old, the most typical is menstruation after two years of breast development.
Many girls also have vaginal mucus.
For example, I was discharged about six months before my first menstruation.
What to expect: she may have all your symptoms when you have a menstrual period: Back pain, cramps, acne, PMS--the works.
Don\'t expect it to be normal at first. -
It may take her two years to build a cycle.
How to deal with it: my mother and I talked about menstruation like this: I: \"Mom?
We have a health lesson today.
The teacher said we should take this equipment.
There are books and mats and so on. \" My mom: \"OK. \" That was it.
I don\'t want Mari and her 6-year-
Laila, old sister, you may not know.
If you haven\'t already, tell your child what will happen.
There is no need to have all the technical knowledge of it, just say, \"every girl\'s reproductive system ---
The part that helps your body have children when you grow up --up --
I\'m starting work.
There will be blood.
You won\'t die.
Natural and normal. It\'ll be yucky.
Sometimes your stomach hurts.
Your attitude will be very bad.
But it happened to all of us.
\"One way to start the discussion might be the way Tori is: when her girl finds her mat and tampon in the bathroom.
\"My motto is that I will answer as much as I can if they ask.
I do tell them how to use the pads and they get cramps, back pain, acne and other good things.
\"While my mom is not very talkative, the kit she ended up buying for me definitely helps me get ready for what\'s coming.
I remember thinking it was really cool to have something of my own.
You can buy some suits online. -
The first set of Dot Girl (
In my first girl loop kit with petite Amie (
Mats, tampon and brochures are available for less than $25 per piece--
But it\'s easy to do it yourself with less money.
Check out the website of the high-profile and Tampax;
They are filled with information that you can print out and put in a lovely make-up bag with cushions and tampon in it.
You can also add other items such as heating pads, painkillers and sanitary wipes.
What do you expect when you have a boy muscle: 11 years old to late teens (
For some, even early adulthood)
What to expect: he won\'t look like Arnold Schwarzenegger overnight, but your son will start to get stronger, mostly on his arms and shoulders.
Testosterone, a male adolescent hormone, is working with growth hormone to let him supplement it.
Don\'t be surprised if you find him posing as Hulk in the mirror-
Or dumbbell. Parenting. com: 11 big-
Dede King, a child milestone in Brownsville, Pennsylvania, is the mother of five children, and she says her 10-before going to bed every night-year-
Old Cameron bought two lightweight sets with her permission.
\"While I was reading him his Boxcar Children\'s story, I also tried to make him look like a man, which is a little humorous,\" King said . \".
How to deal with it: he may be anxious to keep up with his friends, but until he is around 13, his developing muscles can withstand heavy weight lifting, and even so, for him, it is also important to monitor and slowly gain weight.
Explain to him that the best way to build muscle is to eat healthy and do everything the kids do-
Running, jumping, playing-
Charles capetta says team sports
D. associate professor of pediatrics, Dartmouth Medical College.
If he wants to \"exercise\", aerobics like pushups, pull-
Now, sit-ups are better for him, and they can also exercise their muscles.
Sweating on a Friday is enough, not more than an hour a day.
When is the wet dream masturbation expected: the wet dream is between 10 and 14;
Masturbation is about 12 or 13 (
Although it can start faster)
What to expect: when his body produces more testosterone, your son may start ejaculation at night.
Sometimes with these erotic dreams of release;
Sometimes it won\'t.
If they haven\'t masturbated before, most boys will figure out how to make themselves happy during puberty. (
The girls are masturbating. -
It seems to be a bigger part of the boy\'s life. )Nona (
Not her real name)
A mother from Atlanta, Georgia, suspects she\'s 11. year-
The old son has been masturbating for at least a year.
He \"walked into his room politely, closed the door and went into town! \" she says. \"How do I know?
Well, every time I open the door, he almost jumps off the bed.
I\'m not sure why he hasn\'t found out yet that he can lock it up.
\"How to deal with it: If you don\'t talk to your son about a wet dream, he has a dream, and he may think he\'s peeing in bed, so give him 411, tell him it\'s normal.
If he is embarrassed at the thought that his mom or dad is changing wet sheets, please put one more set in his closet and show him how to change the bed himself.
Also, try to remember that masturbation is normal human behavior. -
Although it is emotionally difficult to accept the fact that your child is becoming a sexual being.
The more you remind yourself, the easier it is to discuss with him while making some rules.
Let him know that he should please himself in private, that he should not do it in a public place or in a room where there is a lot of trafficking, where people can walk in.
Parents also have a new responsibility: it\'s time to start knocking at the door before breaking in. Parenting.
Com: How to talk about sex with children, if youor your tween)
It\'s too uncomfortable to mention this topic. try this: Kathy (
Not her real name)
An envelope in greenbray, California is filled with a sheet of paper, each with a hot one
Teenagers like drinking, wet dreams, or shaving worry about having her 15-year-old son pick one every few weeks.
The goal, says Casey, is to change the level of shaming objects so they all get the same random approach.
We call them ten. Minute Topics.
In fact, he is looking forward to these conversations, and they usually last for more than 10 minutes!
\"In both attitudes, when is it expected: \'tude can start before any physical change.
Girls aged 7 to 14;
What to expect for boys aged 9 to 15: Cheer up: hormones will not only change the child\'s body ---
They also go straight into their brains.
Their emotions will be more choppy.
Roller coasters are more crowded than in summer. Sensitive. Moody. Intense.
It\'s like when you\'re in pms \'ing, but it\'s 1,000 times ugly.
With age, the influx of hormones can trigger sudden mood swings and irritability.
Part of the monster
This also happens when supplements see the physical changes their bodies are experiencing and realize that they cannot control them.
Elizabeth Donovan, a spiritual child
The health therapist in Vicente, Virginia calls it \"eyes-rolling, foot-
Stomping, you-so-lame-Mom-and-Dad\" stage.
Ally called it hell.
\"She\'s a monster,\" she said . \"year-
Old, just starting to argue if she can \"hang out\" with her friends at the local pizza shop \"---
No adult supervision
From how she was dressed up to who she was friends with, Carmen\'s autonomy in everything became an almost daily argument.
\"I think peer pressure is there, but hormones are also plotting against us,\" her mother said . \". Parenting.
Are the children of the new school in the supplementary room?
How to deal with it: Try not to take it personally--
She\'s acting crazy because hormones make her crazy and she\'s looking for more autonomy because she sees it on friends and TV.
Besides, you\'re a safe target.
Your child knows that you won\'t refuse her no matter how much she hates it.
It is more important now than ever to set boundaries and establish new rules.
\"What your child needs now is a supportive and understanding parent, but also firm and consistent,\" Donovan said . \".
Stay calm and don\'t get stuck in an argument and give your child a cooldown so you two can think about what you really want to say and how to say it, she advises.
However, in any case, appropriate consequences are given to bad behavior.
\"For example, if she refuses to stop yelling at you, consider canceling a privilege ---
\"What she really wants to do,\" Donovan said . \".
\"The key is consistency.
If you say you are going to take her trip to the mall, then you must do so;
Otherwise, she will believe that what you said is not intentional, and negative behavior will increase.
Ellie said that getting Carmen to say her words would be of great help in controlling the explosion.
\"We did let her vent that we ruined her life,\" she said . \".
\"Even though I really wanted to cut her off, I asked her to speak and I repeated what she said and let her see that I was listening.
Ally said: \"Another coping mechanism is: laugh as much as possible when she is alone with her husband. \"We have to --
To avoid losing it.
\"When will smelly underarm body hair appear: for boys and girls, what will be expected from the age of 9: Puberty hormones will make hair appear everywhere: the boy would put it under his arm and put it on his chest, his legs, his public area, his back and his face;
The girls will put it under their arms, on their legs and on their pussy.
Due to the effect of estrogen or testosterone on the supplementary sweat glands, your child will eventually start to smell like a small construction worker after a hard job, even if he doesn\'t sweat so much, it will be very hot. Talia (
Not her real name)
In West Palm Beach, Florida, she said she would never forget to notice her son Smith for the first time (
Not his real name)
And then 10, smell.
\"I picked him up from basketball and suddenly it was like, \'Wow!
Now he wears more clothes for men.
\"How to deal with it: when it comes to girls and shaving, choosing the right start time is a decision (ideally)
You two do it together.
That is to say, don\'t be surprised if she grows up around the fifth grade.
She\'s really fine with shaving now (
As long as you teach her how to do it safely
But there is no harm in trying to encourage her to postpone for a year or so.
Remind her that this is usually a lifetime commitment once she starts shaving, and it may work.
The beard on the boy is usually the last development (
Want High School)--
You have time for this! Parenting.
Com: why do we feel uncomfortable with the child\'s sexual orientation because the first time you notice that your child smells different, keep your approach simple: explain that since her body is changing, she needs to be vigilant about taking a shower, taking a shower under her arm and using deodorant.
Just hope your kids forget to use it.
\"Smith\'s deodorant is running out and won\'t tell us because it doesn\'t matter to him.
We had him not using it for a few years or we had to remind him to wash and use deodorant under his arm with soap.
As far as hygiene is concerned, I have been fighting with him for a long time.
\"But Talia\'s aunt gave her some wisdom to get her through the years of fear: She said that he would remember every day when he wanted the attention of the girl.
Smith is 14 years old now. -
Tara\'s aunt is right.
He has his own makeup bag and is interested in a girl he meets at school. Bye-Goodbye to Funkmaster. Hello, Romeo.
That night, the pediatrician told us to talk to Mari about the change and Nick helped Lila take a shower alone so I could chat with Mari while she was in our bathroom.
When she was splashing water around in the bubble, I told her that her body was changing ---
About chest and menstruation, hair and curves, cramps and PMS.
I showed her my sanitary napkin and tampon and told her how scared I was during my first menstrual period and how much I wanted to talk to my mom when things happened.
I assure her that she has no questions on this issuelimits with me.
She didn\'t say much. -
Just nodded and promised to come to me if she had a problem.
Then she went back to her bubble and was happy to be my little girl, even if it was just a little longer.
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